We have forgotten how to really listen. Modern times and western society has desensitised us to our true and deep nature. What drives most of what we do every day? Is it possibly the primal and often unconscious desires we have to be loved, seen, appreciated, to feel that we belong? Isn’t it our deep need for connection and to feel part of something meaningful in our lives? Isn’t it all of these repressed and largely unmet needs and desires that is making us all ill? What is the medicine for this sickness? Deep Listening.
Deep Listening starts with our eyes. How often do you hold someone’s gaze for long enough to see them and let yourself be seen? I know personally from living in London that it’s a rare event to really catch someone’s eyes and slow down enough to really meet and feel met in day to day interactions and we really need that slow pace of connecting, yet we participate in this collective resistance to really taking a moment to relax into spontaneous connection. We just run through our days without really looking at anyone, constantly jumping onto the next task or goal to accomplish. We have forgotten that true happiness and success lies in being rather than doing. When we take a moment to listen with our eyes and slow right down, a deeper space in life and our relationships begins to open, healing begins to happen and everything falls into its right place without much effort at all. Although of course bringing ourselves to the practice of deep listening, showing up at events which support this and making a commitment to our own growth does require considerable efforts initially but even this effort dissolves over time and life becomes easier and easier as time passes. The fruits of our labour will be enjoyed. We can not force flowers to grow, we can only water them, nurture them and hope for the best, we can not have everything we want whenever we want it, life is not a vending machine, it is a complex beautiful organism with its own sense of destiny that courses through each of our veins in its own unique way.
Deep Listening continues with the breath. Being aware of our own breath, being aware of the breath of the other, being aware of the breath of life, allowing these subtle rhythms of breathing and living to fall into harmony with one another. This is the process of transformation as it looks through the lens of deep listening, coming through the stage of repressed feeling integration and out into the beauty and expanse of true being. There really is no way around it. No one else is going to digest our old feelings for us, no one else is going to stand in front of an audience for us and shine our light and beauty out into the world, only we can do that. So lets start doing it, all of us together, lets support each, lets listen deeply to ourselves and each other and find a way through. For the way through is waiting to be found and there is no other way.
"Eyes are the windows to the soul
Throughout my life I’ve been told
To see into anothers heart
Eyes are the place to start
Be they hazel, green or blue
Black, brown color changing too
Matters not what color they be
They show what one needs to see
Through these windows the truth lies
Emotionally nothing hides
Clear for all too recognize
Displayed to the world in ones eyes
Evident are anger, lust and surprise
Fear, truth, lust, hope and despise
Happiness, sorrow, and confusion
Inside eyes there is no illusion"